answers 0:I know that Yahoo Answers aren't supposed to ask questions about sex, but I am really curious about some things... So if you are offended by this topic then don't answer because I really want to know the answers...We're both best friends and bi girls, and we've only had one brief talk about sex and I said not until I turn 18 in December, and I'm having a birthday party with just me and her in the city. I'm not sure if we are going to have sex or not, it'd both be our first times. December's still a long ways away so there'd still be alot of time to talk about it. But if we do, I don't know how I feel about giving oral sex. I don't mind getting oral, but the thought of giving oral sex (to a girl or a guy) just seems gross to me. I have a fear of germs s! o that might be why. I'm also worried about the smell. We'd be using protection of course via dental dams so I'm not too worried about the taste. I'm also worried about whether getting or recieving oral counts as losing virginity. In my book, you lose your virginity when you have sex for the first time, but this is generally thought of to be between a man and a woman.I am asking these questions because I have some idea of what the answers are but I want to be sure...1. Does fingering or using sex toys count for losing virginity? (I doubt this) If you do these things when you are a virgin, then what are these experiences called? Third base?2. I know lesbians can lose their virginity through oral, but are there other ways for lesbians to lose their virginities?3. What is it like when you use a dental dam? I assume it's different than without using one, but how different? Is it still as pleasurable? We are using dental dams for protection no matter what...4. What do we do if t! he dental dam rips? Do we stop and put on a new one, or stop a! ltogether?5. What should I do if she wants me to give oral but I don't want to? I know we'd talk about this before we do it, but if it's in the moment and she asks me if I changed my mind because she really wants to?6. I know it's okay to be nervous, but am I nervous to give oral because it's new to me, or that I don't know if it counts for losing my virginity, or for something else?Sorry that it's alot of questions, but I have alot of them...anything else I need to know about my first time, especially with a girl? Thanks :)...Show moreanswers 1:i thought you were no longer a virgin (for girls) when your wall is brokenanswers 2:Virginity is an outdated subject. It doesn't really mean anything in teh real world. If you have sex with a girl, but there is no penetration, you're still exactly the same as you would be if there had been penetration. The way I see it is, if you have sex then you're no longer a virgin. There's no determining moment during sex when you lose your vir! ginity. If you perform sexual acts with another person, regardless of gender, then you have lost your "virginity"You would no longer be seen as "pure" or "clean" or whatever other things virgins are suppose to be. The idea of a virgin is old and doesn't mean much anymore. A long time ago girls were all suppose to be young and ignorant and clean and pure and angelic, but these ideals and pretty much gone now and I think the term virgin will start dieing out with time.To sum everythign up, if you have sex with the girl then neither of you are no longer a virgin. This includes fingering, oral, toys, or whatever else you might do....answers 3:your hymen can break without sex, you can't lose your virginity to a tampon.answers 4:Losing your virginity is totally a subjective thing, the idea that there has to be penetration is outdated. if 2 girls are doing everything to each other execept penetration, they are hardly virgins.As for what u feel comfortable doing, there's no proble! m with taking it slow and doing what u are ready for, regardless of you! r orientation. If they are ready to do more, great, u still go your own pace.dental dams seems like overkill to me. You have never had dangerous sexual activity, has she? If you are both "virgins" and have not been exposed to anything, why bother with the dams? The difference is easy, lick your arm, then lick it with a dental dam. You feel almost nothing...answers 5:1st poster: nope, tampons and activities such as horseback riding, masturbatibg, rough sports, etc can also break the *hymen*answers 6:i apologize for any typosanswers 7:A virgin is someone who has not had sexual relations with someone. It's that simple.And you're right, the state of your hymen has Nothing to do with virginity. It's easy for your hymen to be torn or worn down years before ever having sex. Some girls are born without a hymen.answers 8:1. If your hymen is broken, it counts as loosing your virginity.2. Finger, toys etc3. No idea 4. Well depends. It might ruin the mood a little to get up and go! get another one, or it might not.5. Either just nicely say no or just go for it.6. It's more of a personal thing. I don't really count oral as loosing your virginity cause there's no penetration involved...well usually anyways...answers 9:We will both be legal adults (18) when we have sex...answers 10:1. with a man and a women it's simple, it's intercourse. but with two women it gets confusing. you just have to figure out what you think for yourself really. for me fingering is not losing your virginity but if i were to finger a girl and both or us r naked i would probably consider that sex, that's just me tho. and i think oral and sex toys are sex for sure in my book.2. sex toys and fingering eachother naked would be loosing ur virginity in my eyes3/4. i have never used dental dam to be honest i have only been with one guy and we did do the oral stuff but i was younger and i'll never do it with a guy again and i probably should have been more careful. even tho it was both ! our first times you still dont know. so i suggest using it for sure5. s! imple answer. dont let her do it to you unless you're willing to do it back. plan and simple it's not fair or right to get it and not do it back. even if she says it's fine i wouldnt cuz it's ur first time. i would just not do it til ur ready to do it back. 6. it does count as losing your virginity in my eyes. and you're probably just nervous. im ocd like major and i ended up doing it with a guy and that was gross i didnt like it cuz cleary i like girls ha but if you actually like her then u should be finedont do anything unless u love her :)...
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